Having celiac disease is hard enough let alone when you get that beautiful wedding invitation in the mail and your first thought is “ How will I be able to navigate this?”
I know it is incredibly hard at social events, parties, vacations, weddings etc. Trust me, been there, done that! What you need to know is yes it can be hard, but yes you can work around it.
I have never wanted to be the person that is seen as the issue all because of having celiac. Between this past weekend, and this coming November, my husband and I have been invited to 6 weddings and to tell the truth, I am having a bit of anxiety over it. So what do i do? What should you do?
The first thing that I suggest, is once you receive that invitation, check over the meal options provided on the card. Our first invitation, I actually felt close enough to the bride to bring up my celiac disease. I reached out apologizing in advance that I was a bother, but wanted to ask her permission if I could personally contact the venue to go over my dietary issue. I told her how excited I was to attend the wedding, but wanted to double check to make sure nothing gets cross contaminated. I know everyone is different on how they would approach such a thing, but it does depend on how close you are to the couple.
Luckily for me, the bride was very receptive. She said she would reach out to the venue and talk about my options. As the wedding approached, I found out that it was going to be stations in different corners of the room. The bride assured me that someone would come to my table that night, and go over my options. Once the wedding arrived, I obviously was unable to eat any hor d’oeuvres. As we sat down a lady came and told me what I could and could not have at the stations. Well the salad station I could have the salad, but the dressing was not gluten free! Who really wants to eat a plate of dry lettuce. (Lesson learned…. Pack a tiny travel cup of your own dressing for things like this!)
I had to steer clear of the pasta station and boy did it smell amazing! I was able to have the roasted veggies with the meat at the carving station. I brought along my Nima sensor, that I purchased solely for travel and occasions like this. I am happy to report that Nima came back happy for the meat and veggies! I loved the added reassurance just for that reason!
For the weddings that are coming up, I did reach out to some of those couples as well. I let them know about my husband’s shellfish allergy, but also my celiac as well. I said there are many things that I can indeed eat, the issue is everything for myself has to be made in a separate prep area to avoid cross contamination. I am still waiting to hear back from a few, but most of the couples are happy that I reached out, because let’s face it…no one wants anyone getting sick at their wedding!
So here is my little tidbit of advice: If your very close with the couple or one of them I say be honest and reach out. Let them know that you are excited to attend but nervous about the food. I wouldn’t get into a full speech about celiac, but just explain a lot of items contain gluten and wheat like dressings or sauces or gravies. Ask if there is anyway your food could be made in a separate area and not the same pans to avoid cross contamination. If for any reason they can not accommodate or guarantee a gluten free celiac safe meal, I do suggest eating before hand.
Until Next Time
The Celiac Corner